This is a conversation I had with Joyah (obviously not her real name) regarding the issue of Mutaah (Contract) Marriage versus the Islamic polygamy marriage system. Some parts were in Bahasa but I expect each and every single Malaysian would be able to comprehend the whole story (unless you only go to Chinese Schools from the beginning of your age and do not mix around). As usual, the bombshell is right at the end.
Jeghui: Do u know that there are ppl practising kawen muta'ah here?
Joyah: Kawen mutaah tu ape? Contract marriage?
Jeghui: Yeah
Joyah: Heheheh
Jeghui: Its so immoral
Jeghui: Nk kawen, kawen je lah
Jeghui: Why kena ada contract term?
Joyah: Sbb maybe after their work contract habis, they hv to go bk to respective countries Jeghui: Its immoral don't u think?
Joyah: I won't think so
Jeghui: After that, what happened to the woman?
Jeghui: Ditinggalkan?
Jeghui: Kena cari pengganti lain?
Joyah: Maybe its against the religion but as long as both man n woman hv a mutual agreement its ok
Jeghui: I think about the woman
Jeghui: Laki mmg boleh cari lain. Woman susah
Jeghui: Lebih2 lg kalau org tau dia dah kawen
Joyah: Yeke? Not in these modern days la
Jeghui: Would u marry someone for a term of 1 year? Are u that open minded?
Jeghui: Would u let your daughter marry someone for one year only?
Jeghui: What about men changing wives every year under muta'ah contract?
Jeghui: Acceptable to you?
Joyah: not to me
Joyah: But maybe others r ok w it
Joyah: Plus for me 1 year is too quick la.. My bf rship is longer hahahaah
Jeghui: Ook
Jeghui: Ok maybe 5 years? Acceptable?
Jeghui: Haha
Joyah: Yupp
Jeghui: Ok. U surprised me. For me muta'ah is disgusting and a disgrace. Polygamy better and halal option. Let's just agree to disagree. :]Y
Joyah: Ahahhaahaha
Joyah: Thts bcuz poligamy is acceptable in your religion. I consider tht acceptable not basing my opinion on religious perspective
Joyah: N of course polygamy is better and acceptable for u bcuz u r a man. U yg dpt 4 wives. Ur answer is gender bias. Wht if women can practice poligamy as well.. Wud u find tht a better option too!
Jeghui: My religion is not your religion?
Jeghui: If I were to be bias, I would choose muta'ah hands down.
Jeghui: Imagine I live until 69 yrs old. Now I'm 29. 50 virgins per year tuuuuu
Jeghui: *79
Jeghui: *50 virgins in total lifetime
Jeghui: Belum ada overlapping lg tu
Jeghui: Hahaha
Joyah: Wht makes u think ull get all virgins?
Jeghui: Muta'ah is in no way helping the women
Joyah: And wht makes u thnk Ull get 1 each year?
Jeghui: Its a metaphor. Since muta'ah is allowing this
Jeghui: But again, my religion is not ur religion?
Joyah: Neither mutaah nor poligamy is helping women. At least mutaah the woman has a choice. Nak join la. Tknk jgn la
Jeghui: Same goes. Women can choose to reject polygamy
Jeghui: In my religion, its harram to force anyone to marry u
Jeghui: Poligamy can help women if its used with good intentions
Jeghui: Say my best friend died, and he before that told me to take care of the wife and kids. And I don't mind. And the wife agrees. Isn't it helping?
Jeghui: He told me secretly when he was alive. Of course with signed papers etc
Jeghui: That's one way of looking at it
Joyah: Ape ape la Jeghui
Joyah: Ur scenario is too gd to be true nwy.. Unlikely to happen in real life.. But if it makes u happy.. Go ahead n believe it
Jeghui: Don't apa2. This is a two way discussion. Its healthy.
Jeghui: I'm with my opinion. You, with yours
Jeghui: its quite enlightening to hear from different perspective. I'm no bigot
Joyah: Seriously I don't need this talk now. I'm w my luvly anak pinjam n my session shudnt be disturbed w ur opinion or religious talk
Jeghui: Didn't know Islam is that disturbing.
Jeghui: My sincere apologies if I annoyed you today. Wassalaam.
Joyah: Religion isn't disturbing. Man's view on religion is
Jeghui: Maybe you misunderstood me or something
Jeghui: I dunno
Jeghui: But it would be very-very sad if u meant to say that my religion and your religion is not the same anymore :(
Jeghui: Joyah? Tell me that's not true right? As a friend, I'm concerned
Joyah: Isk tk la.. Don't be silly
Jeghui: Okay. I can sleep well tonight
Jeghui: :)
This banter happened about six months ago. Last month, Joyah has accepted the hand of a prince… after allegedly “befriending him for 10 years”, according to a source closest to her.
Joyah became the prince’s third wife.
The truth has won again.
Jeghui: Do u know that there are ppl practising kawen muta'ah here?
Joyah: Kawen mutaah tu ape? Contract marriage?
Jeghui: Yeah
Joyah: Heheheh
Jeghui: Its so immoral
Jeghui: Nk kawen, kawen je lah
Jeghui: Why kena ada contract term?
Joyah: Sbb maybe after their work contract habis, they hv to go bk to respective countries Jeghui: Its immoral don't u think?
Joyah: I won't think so
Jeghui: After that, what happened to the woman?
Jeghui: Ditinggalkan?
Jeghui: Kena cari pengganti lain?
Joyah: Maybe its against the religion but as long as both man n woman hv a mutual agreement its ok
Jeghui: I think about the woman
Jeghui: Laki mmg boleh cari lain. Woman susah
Jeghui: Lebih2 lg kalau org tau dia dah kawen
Joyah: Yeke? Not in these modern days la
Jeghui: Would u marry someone for a term of 1 year? Are u that open minded?
Jeghui: Would u let your daughter marry someone for one year only?
Jeghui: What about men changing wives every year under muta'ah contract?
Jeghui: Acceptable to you?
Joyah: not to me
Joyah: But maybe others r ok w it
Joyah: Plus for me 1 year is too quick la.. My bf rship is longer hahahaah
Jeghui: Ook
Jeghui: Ok maybe 5 years? Acceptable?
Jeghui: Haha
Joyah: Yupp
Jeghui: Ok. U surprised me. For me muta'ah is disgusting and a disgrace. Polygamy better and halal option. Let's just agree to disagree. :]Y
Joyah: Ahahhaahaha
Joyah: Thts bcuz poligamy is acceptable in your religion. I consider tht acceptable not basing my opinion on religious perspective
Joyah: N of course polygamy is better and acceptable for u bcuz u r a man. U yg dpt 4 wives. Ur answer is gender bias. Wht if women can practice poligamy as well.. Wud u find tht a better option too!
Jeghui: My religion is not your religion?
Jeghui: If I were to be bias, I would choose muta'ah hands down.
Jeghui: Imagine I live until 69 yrs old. Now I'm 29. 50 virgins per year tuuuuu
Jeghui: *79
Jeghui: *50 virgins in total lifetime
Jeghui: Belum ada overlapping lg tu
Jeghui: Hahaha
Joyah: Wht makes u think ull get all virgins?
Jeghui: Muta'ah is in no way helping the women
Joyah: And wht makes u thnk Ull get 1 each year?
Jeghui: Its a metaphor. Since muta'ah is allowing this
Jeghui: But again, my religion is not ur religion?
Joyah: Neither mutaah nor poligamy is helping women. At least mutaah the woman has a choice. Nak join la. Tknk jgn la
Jeghui: Same goes. Women can choose to reject polygamy
Jeghui: In my religion, its harram to force anyone to marry u
Jeghui: Poligamy can help women if its used with good intentions
Jeghui: Say my best friend died, and he before that told me to take care of the wife and kids. And I don't mind. And the wife agrees. Isn't it helping?
Jeghui: He told me secretly when he was alive. Of course with signed papers etc
Jeghui: That's one way of looking at it
Joyah: Ape ape la Jeghui
Joyah: Ur scenario is too gd to be true nwy.. Unlikely to happen in real life.. But if it makes u happy.. Go ahead n believe it
Jeghui: Don't apa2. This is a two way discussion. Its healthy.
Jeghui: I'm with my opinion. You, with yours
Jeghui: its quite enlightening to hear from different perspective. I'm no bigot
Joyah: Seriously I don't need this talk now. I'm w my luvly anak pinjam n my session shudnt be disturbed w ur opinion or religious talk
Jeghui: Didn't know Islam is that disturbing.
Jeghui: My sincere apologies if I annoyed you today. Wassalaam.
Joyah: Religion isn't disturbing. Man's view on religion is
Jeghui: Maybe you misunderstood me or something
Jeghui: I dunno
Jeghui: But it would be very-very sad if u meant to say that my religion and your religion is not the same anymore :(
Jeghui: Joyah? Tell me that's not true right? As a friend, I'm concerned
Joyah: Isk tk la.. Don't be silly
Jeghui: Okay. I can sleep well tonight
Jeghui: :)
This banter happened about six months ago. Last month, Joyah has accepted the hand of a prince… after allegedly “befriending him for 10 years”, according to a source closest to her.
Joyah became the prince’s third wife.
The truth has won again.
