Jeghui vs Joyah

This is a conversation I had with Joyah (obviously not her real name) regarding the issue of Mutaah (Contract) Marriage versus the Islamic polygamy marriage system. Some parts were in Bahasa but I expect each and every single Malaysian would be able to comprehend the whole story (unless you only go to Chinese Schools from the beginning of your age and do not mix around). As usual, the bombshell is right at the end.


Jeghui: Do u know that there are ppl practising kawen muta'ah here?

Joyah: Kawen mutaah tu ape? Contract marriage?

Jeghui: Yeah

Joyah: Heheheh

Jeghui: Its so immoral

Jeghui: Nk kawen, kawen je lah

Jeghui: Why kena ada contract term?

Joyah: Sbb maybe after their work contract habis, they hv to go bk to respective countries Jeghui: Its immoral don't u think?

Joyah: I won't think so

Jeghui: After that, what happened to the woman?

Jeghui: Ditinggalkan?

Jeghui: Kena cari pengganti lain?

Joyah: Maybe its against the religion but as long as both man n woman hv a mutual agreement its ok

Jeghui: I think about the woman

Jeghui: Laki mmg boleh cari lain. Woman susah

Jeghui: Lebih2 lg kalau org tau dia dah kawen

Joyah: Yeke? Not in these modern days la

Jeghui: Would u marry someone for a term of 1 year? Are u that open minded?

Jeghui: Would u let your daughter marry someone for one year only?

Jeghui: What about men changing wives every year under muta'ah contract?

Jeghui: Acceptable to you?

Joyah: not to me

Joyah: But maybe others r ok w it

Joyah: Plus for me 1 year is too quick la.. My bf rship is longer hahahaah

Jeghui: Ook

Jeghui: Ok maybe 5 years? Acceptable?

Jeghui: Haha

Joyah: Yupp

Jeghui: Ok. U surprised me. For me muta'ah is disgusting and a disgrace. Polygamy better and halal option. Let's just agree to disagree. :]Y

Joyah: Ahahhaahaha

Joyah: Thts bcuz poligamy is acceptable in your religion. I consider tht acceptable not basing my opinion on religious perspective

Joyah: N of course polygamy is better and acceptable for u bcuz u r a man. U yg dpt 4 wives. Ur answer is gender bias. Wht if women can practice poligamy as well.. Wud u find tht a better option too!

Jeghui: My religion is not your religion?

Jeghui: If I were to be bias, I would choose muta'ah hands down.

Jeghui: Imagine I live until 69 yrs old. Now I'm 29. 50 virgins per year tuuuuu

Jeghui: *79

Jeghui: *50 virgins in total lifetime

Jeghui: Belum ada overlapping lg tu

Jeghui: Hahaha

Joyah: Wht makes u think ull get all virgins?

Jeghui: Muta'ah is in no way helping the women

Joyah: And wht makes u thnk Ull get 1 each year?

Jeghui: Its a metaphor. Since muta'ah is allowing this

Jeghui: But again, my religion is not ur religion?

Joyah: Neither mutaah nor poligamy is helping women. At least mutaah the woman has a choice. Nak join la. Tknk jgn la

Jeghui: Same goes. Women can choose to reject polygamy

Jeghui: In my religion, its harram to force anyone to marry u

Jeghui: Poligamy can help women if its used with good intentions

Jeghui: Say my best friend died, and he before that told me to take care of the wife and kids. And I don't mind. And the wife agrees. Isn't it helping?

Jeghui: He told me secretly when he was alive. Of course with signed papers etc

Jeghui: That's one way of looking at it

Joyah: Ape ape la Jeghui

Joyah: Ur scenario is too gd to be true nwy.. Unlikely to happen in real life.. But if it makes u happy.. Go ahead n believe it

Jeghui: Don't apa2. This is a two way discussion. Its healthy.

Jeghui: I'm with my opinion. You, with yours

Jeghui: its quite enlightening to hear from different perspective. I'm no bigot

Joyah: Seriously I don't need this talk now. I'm w my luvly anak pinjam n my session shudnt be disturbed w ur opinion or religious talk

Jeghui: Didn't know Islam is that disturbing.

Jeghui: My sincere apologies if I annoyed you today. Wassalaam.

Joyah: Religion isn't disturbing. Man's view on religion is

Jeghui: Maybe you misunderstood me or something

Jeghui: I dunno

Jeghui: But it would be very-very sad if u meant to say that my religion and your religion is not the same anymore :(

Jeghui: Joyah? Tell me that's not true right? As a friend, I'm concerned

Joyah: Isk tk la.. Don't be silly

Jeghui: Okay. I can sleep well tonight

Jeghui: :)

This banter happened about six months ago. Last month, Joyah has accepted the hand of a prince… after allegedly “befriending him for 10 years”, according to a source closest to her.

Joyah became the prince’s third wife.

The truth has won again.

Goodbye - Air Supply

Dedicated to someone i truly love Writer: THOMPSON, LINDA / FOSTER, DAVID I can see the pain living in your eyes And I know how hard you try You deserve to have so much more I can feel your heart and I sympathize And I'll never criticize all you've ever meant to my life [Chorus] I don't want to let you down I don't want to lead you on I don't want to hold you back From where you might belong You would never ask me why My heart is so disguised I just can't live a lie anymore I would rather hurt myself Than to ever make you cry There's nothing left to say but good-bye You deserve the chance at the kind of love I'm not sure I'm worthy of Losing you is painful to me (Chorus) You would never ask me why My heart is so disguised I just can't live a lie anymore I would rather hurt myself Than to ever make you cry There's nothing left to try Though it's gonna hurt us both There's no other way than to say good-bye

Bitesize Updates

On Penanti by-election...
Shouldn't be held at the first place. But Fairus the Misai Kucing Silat Ultraman felt betrayed but remains loyal with PKR. I mean, what is your problem? One even told me that Fairus had to do it to further his studies? Come on.. in what? Silat Cekak Penjejak Badai Tahap Qigong Meriam? You were selected by the people to serve them for a term. And the results shown as if there is no need for that by-election. Only 43% went out to vote? That's like the lowest ever! Apart from the by-elections triggered by deaths, other by-elections were unnecessary as well. It cost a lot of tax payer money and what a waste of time when evidently the results indicated the people remains loyal with the party won in the General Election 2008. What a load of rubbish.

On Guy Carpenter...
It's my 5th week now. Really happy with it. The people here are soo brilliant and it's different for me because the bosses actually sit near you. I can actually meet the SVPs because they are only 3 cubicles away. I got the corner lot where people past by every time they go for tea/coffee in the mini-canteen. Kantoi surfing Internet...

The future...
Depends really. Would hope to stay longer here. Qualify maybe? Definitely. 5 years here and 6 years with MNRB that sounds Alright as long as everything goes smooth with me.

The new house...
Still think its a bargain. I paid 375pounds per month for the Neasden house, 350 for the one at Park Court, 300 for Linacre Road I hardly occupied and now 460 for Scarborough St. I have got a double-bed room, with newly furbished shower room and toilets plus we got the new stove as well. Low point is I am actually sharing with unknowns but I'm quite click with one of them named Martin, who, ironically, was made redundant by Guy Carpenter earlier this year. Gulp! The distance to Tower Place? 7 minutes walk so no 100 quid monthly travel pass for me!

Food hunting...
Yeah went Shanghai Inn's Noodles (Halal), Bayswater the first time with Adrian, Arin and Amir (Arin's brother). Very nice the duck! I like! But the disappointment was for the dumplings.. tasteless. But will come again. And there is an Indian restaurant just round the corner of my house named Halal Restaurant. A lot better than Khan's. Good food, good service. Very polite. Got free dessert some more. After my last visit with Shukur from Malaysian Re, that could be my last.

Weekend football...
4 a side the first time I went with the likes of Arin, Amir, Amir, Amir, Yas, Zaid, fadhli and others.. If no people, we play Frisbee. Very weird the frisbee. But very fast.. travels so long. Got injured last weekend. Amir Abdillah was soo sweet to check out on my ankle the next day by calling. Budak baik ni! Haha. Unlucky je tak dapat masuk Final British Got Talent. (AMir, if you are reading this, jgn marah wei ko dah nak kawen kena control macho nanti bersanding. Haha).

Ok now I need to go solat Zuhur at Level 2. Yes, GuyCarp/Marsh ada bilik solat! Woohoo!

Chalos

Unexpected Result

I tried to check my result via online for zillions of times. Ughh that was a big fat exaggeration. Ok la, coupla times. When suddenly my result slip was on the interface, then I saw it. I was chatting with classmates when I was looking at it. Dup dap dub dap.

And.. all i can say is it was the most unexpected result ever...

I got an A- for General Insurance II! Can you beileve that? I almost fainted leaving the room after that paper. But then again, it is something to smile about. Why? Coz the rest are just so unexpected. Well, except for my Project Paper we all know it was B-. Everybody knows that after my previous boo-hoo waaa entry. Thanks Mr Hanafi. Now I have decided I'm not gonna miss you. Or ever appreciate u. Pfhh.

Dat sounds a bit emo. But to be fair, I never see him as a lecturer to me. He loves yapping nonsense and spent only a few minutes for the students. And then blame the students for being underachieved. Call yourself a lecturer? You could replace the VC lah sir. Not!

I remember when he barked at me on my first class with him, still fresh in my mind. "I expect you all to learn by yourselves because you all are bright students. So don't expect me to write anything on the board!". It was Quantitative Business Analysis for God sake! Not a reading subject!

He will never change his attitude or his way of teaching in the class. Trust me on this one!

Risk Theory, quite unexpected. Although I cheated in class in tests, so a B is rather OK lah. Although I was hoping for an A. I thought I did great in the final exam. Guess what? I thought wrong! I think I have the tendency to underachieve when I study like hell. Kalo lepak2 score kot... sheesh!

Pension Scheme. Hmm.. ntah ah. Pn. Azizah has never gave me an A in her life. Not even A-. Even Mr. Samiappan gave me A- twice, including this term. But then again, she was responsible for making me realise with her 'Be a Master of One' advice. Classic!

A for French? I think that's not good enough. I performed better this term but I got an A. Last term, I performed shittyly pon dapat A+. Missing you Linda...

Weird?

Lets hope the trip to Gold Coast will help me sink it in.

p/s: I'm just glad I'm done, although not in that of a handsome manner. VC must be annoyed if he knew this.

Jeg the Unemployed Toy.

UPEN's Nite

I received a call from Abang Tapa and he asked me if I wanted to go to a dinner. I asked him "Dinner apo nih?" feeling dizzy because of oversleeping. "Dinner macam dulu-dulu, dekat Holiday Villa," he added. "Ohh yang dekat Shah Alam tu ke?" I asked, obviously in the middle of blur-ness (ada ke perkataan ni?).

"Mana pulak. Dekat Subang. SJMC tu."

And so I agreed to go to this dinner that I not know of. Probably Abah arranged this. So I conveyed the messages to Nadia, Mama and Boy and booked for 4 seats.

I went upstairs to check if they were already set to go. Amazingly Boy put up a white compang camping T-Shirt as if he was not going. So I assumed he wasn't coming when suddenly he said he was ready to go. What the hell? Hang ingat nak pi Lau Wan ka? Lau Wan is a famous Kuew Tiaw kerang stall in Kelana Jaya by the way.

Then I repeatedly said, "Pakai elok-elok. Pakai elok-elok. Pakai elok-elok..."

So Nadia and Mama did wear decently. Finally Boy also got into a more 'majestic' TShirt, fortunately. And we reached the hotel at about 8.30p.m. Biasa ah. Janji melayu 30 minutes late. By the time we were about to enter the Vintage Ballroom, suddenly we heard the sound of kompang as if we were welcomed. Haha. Tetiba terasa bangga... but actually the VIP (Timbalan Setiausaha Kerajaan) had just arrived. So we quickly went to our seats labelled 36. Nombor Kudin tu.

Lah dinner UPEN ke? Last time I went they invited the Platters from America. The dinner was actually organised by the state government, UPEN to be precise. UPEN stands for Unit Perancang Ekonomi Negeri. So those people who were present were the VIPs from the state Selangor and the companies who are on contract or hopeful to get a contract from this state department. I guess lah.

Met Abg Tapa, Fahmi and Kak Jaja at the table. Jalil Hamid was the MC with Mek Siti. I think they really did a great job. Spontaneously. I gotta admit it is quite hard to make me laugh but i did laughed many times with their jokes. As long as it is not dirty jokes. Ceycey.

The food was OK. But bantai je ah. "I am here for the food and the girls!" I proudly said when I first arrived at my seat. But then there was more to come.

After a few uknowns who performed quite well on the stage, suddenly out of nowhere Datuk M Daud Kilau appeared. Haha. He was a great entertainer. At 67 years old of age, he seemed so strong to me. There was a few songs that I heard from TV. One I can say is the song Mazlan Pet2 sang from one slot Senario. "Banyak orang kaki judi... lalala.... judi sampai mati.." and the chorus part was damn funnee.

"SATU RINGGIT..... DUA ringgiittt... Tiga ringgitt.... AAMMPAAAATTTT RINGGITTT!!" suddenly Datuk sang with the highest tone. I laughed like hell.

Then came Misha Omar. WOW! She looked a lot prettier LIVE rather than on T.V. "Make-up, lighting.." I said to myself in order to control myself. You guys know lah how I get uncontrollable when I see beautiful girls. Hahaha. Nah, just kidding.

Misha Omar really knows her job pretty well. She knows how to interact with the audience. She was very friendly and sporting last night. While singing, she could even take pictures with the audience. Not only that, she smiled so brightly and hugged her fans as she was singing! No she wasn't miming.

The last part came when Jalil Hamid himself sang the famous Ayam song. I gotta admit I was his Kipas Susah Mati (Die Hard Fan) when I was younger. I mean that makes the whole siblings coz we had Jalil Hamid's cassettes including the Hari Raya record. Everytime balik raya, surely we would listen to his songs. Everytime. But the cassettes are nowehere to be seen now.

We headed home at about 12.30p.m. Sorry Shuen, betray William. Family first.

Imagine Boy went to that glamourous dinner with his ingat-habis-humble-lah-tu T Shirt. It would be one unforgettable moment. Hahaha!

Ayam, bermacam ayam,
Ada ayam kampung ayam hutan ayam siam ayam belanda
Macam-macam, perihal ayam..

blalala.. aku tak ingat dah.. haha. I managed to tell Jalil, "I was the famous Ayam song fan when I was small"
I dunno where did that come from. Poyo jugerr. But Jalil Hamid simply pulled his most Jawa face. Haha.

Pics from the BBQ Tuesday

The Bhoys on Tuesday. Piah, Nain, Big Show, Nizam (face covered), Arwin and Azrul. Picture taken by Azrul. You might wonder why he is called Big Show.

This is why. An average Asian man would be 170cm (me). But this guy is just good enough for the national's football team.


BBQ and badminton? The chics trying to 'hadam' the Kenny Rogers-like roasted chicken with a game or two. Good idea.

Si panggang and Si Pencuri Ayam. Aku si pencuri.

Pretending to be not scared of the ghost stories. Looking up at the sky so high. When suddenly, Si Penanggal datang menjelma....
Can't find the pics with galah panjang game. Should be a memorable one. Anyone got that pic?

Bbq Tuesday

For a second straight day I've been sleeping all day and night. It was a torrid and mind bulging time improving my project paper. It was not worth of my time. Since it is official my grade is B-. That Tuesday I headed to Shah Alam and saw my touch and go balance reduced to RM2.40. No more passing the Shah Alam toll this time i guess. Ah well, there'll be one more time. To take my scroll in a few months unless I chose to use the non-toll route Glenmarie.

What the hell am I bragging pon aku tatau. I am here to talk about the bbq. So I drove my car into the faculty and forgot to top-up to call Piah to stay over his house for a short while before going to Baiduri for the Bbq. Ah, there was no need. Right about to park my car I saw Arwin, Nain and Piah. But what the hell's Arwin doing here? I cud understand Piah and Nain wanting to send 2 copies of their project like I wanted to do.

"Ko buat apa sini?"

"Hah? Ada actuarial day"

Ye la tuh. How many actuarial day in a semester they want to organise? So I knew he was joking. I asked them to wait for me. And they did so went up the stairs to hand it the report. Met Hanafi on the way. Still hopeful he would give me a good grade. So here we go again Hanafi bragging about this and that yada yada yada and went for my breakfast at 4.30p.m. SS2. Ikan keli dah abis! So during our meal we were still talking about Hanafi and project and how miraculously Asrep got a zero for his group project. Maybe mistakenly keyed-in by Dato' kot. 20 actually kot probably he missed on the key '2'.

Originally, Apeq asked us to help him out on the potong bawang Tunas Puteri session. Haha. Well, not this time. Feeling a bit down with the project I opted to do easier things. Went shopping with Arwin (the driver), Nain (Chief Khadam) and Piah (Kuli Pertiwi) to get some charcoal and stuff from Nana (the Sleeping Beauty)'s house. I was wearing this Burberry shirt, the same shirt I wore in a weekend outing. So I knew I had to change. And I was on my pagoda shirt all day.

So we headed back to Baiduri. The potong bawang and marinating session was done by Apeq and Asrep. "Maleh!" Asrep barked at us when we chose to betray him. Not to forget how he pulled Piah into a heated telling off about his gay-like body shirt in which I agreed.

And I got myself back in my Burberry shirt. Apeq complimented later that I looked taller in the shirt. Come on man. My height is average ok. Haha. So we all had fun starting up the fire using paip getah motor. I had many Kambing-Q or Ayam-Q parties (Babi-Q kan haram bak kata Pakcik Surau that night) before but that was the first time I saw how to start a fire in the most busuk bau getah way. But it was damn efficient. Who needs a fire starter? "This is a brillliant idea," I thought. And it was the first time I saw people using water by sprinkling it onto the red hot charcoal to control the fire. Lots of things I learned that night. Arwin came up with the joke that former Tunas Puteri members are good at Babi-Qs so he urged ppl not to over-rely on him because he was from the Kadet Bomba. Bomba padam api, get it?

You can't get it here coz it's all written. But I got one trivia made up by Raja that night quite handsomely, but to the annoy of some ppl in the group. Gimme a break. I know I am good at spelling bees. hahah! He said, "This is a new way to spell McDonald. M-A-C-D-O-N-A-L-D. So, kalo McChicken M-A-C-C-H-I-C-K-E-N bunyi dia...?" The rest replied, "McChicken!". Good. Forwarding the trivia to Didi Raja asked again. "Kalau M-A-C-H-I-N-E??". Spontaneously I answered, "Err.. Machine?". Then suddenly I got some accusations that I heard of the trivia before. What did u expect for me to say? "Mac-Hine?" Haha. But it was a good attempt anyway. Raja by the way is good at magic tricks. Teringat aku kat SHuen. Shuen is also good at magic tricks. And ironically, both are computer geeks. (Bill Gates is a self-proclaimed geek so I expect both to go far in the industry, be it in the music industry since Shuen is now so into I'm Sprung hahaha).

We had some ghost stories. Somebody wanted to throw me a phone when I was about to start my ghost story coz she thought I was gonna bertapa? What was wrong with her I dunno. Main galah panjang dekat badminton court Baiduri tu. Huda scored all the points to take our team to glory yeahh!! Gelak2. Jerit2. Main badminton. So it was fun. Masak ayam tu mmg perkara biasa ah. Well, atleast I didnt here any complaints about the food. "Nak sedap2 beli Kenny Rogers".
Suddenly when Pak Guard and 4 frens came to us and asked us to pack and go. "Sapa leader sini?" Haha tetiba je tanya pasal leader. Its not like we are having an illegal demonsration. "REFORMASI!!!" Hahaha!

So we kemas2 and headed to Hakim Tujuh plak. Borak2 panjang sampai kol 5.10 pagi. Gossip. Citer2 lecturer. A bit confidential stories pon ada regarding a friend. Haha. It was hillarious.
At about 5.30 I reached home and sempat Isya' and terus Subuh. Scary jugak dok teringat citer2 hantu tol, Karak Highway etc. Gila ryte. And slept until 2.00 pm.

I know it's a long blog. So, later-later lah.

Chow

It's all over

Ah well, everything that concerns UiTM in my life is over now. But I didn't end it in the most handsome manner. It was my project presentation on that Saturday. I came rather early considering it was one gloomy start of a weekend where usually I oversleep purposely. I waited for so long for this day to come. That day I thought it was gonna be smooth and everything would be over and I can finally enjoy football with much enthusiasm.

Sadly it didnt go that well. I was positioned as the last candidate to present. Should have come later. I was so nervous as if I knew I would screw up. "I think that's all I had to say about my project. Thank You. ANy questions?"

Suddenly, Mr Hanafi started to open his mouth and said, "Nak bagi hard ke soft comment nih.."
And without giving me the chance to defend myself, he accused me of doing this and that. Things that I didnt do, things that we all in the class wudn't expect him to say about my project.

"I know this program ni Mr Sam yang buat.. I can ask him you know.. if this is his work," he said, assuming things in his imagination.

"This is not a project. You are only proving that Mr Sam's program works well"

"Hahaha..!" Zuraizam laughed while the rest sat down quietly in shock, unexpectedly. Some friend huh?

I took a sharp stare at him but he was not aware of it.

There you go. I was bombarded with accusations. Something that never happen in my life before. Knowing that I would blow up if I tried to defend myself, I took a breather and nodded everytime the accusations were read. I know I will defend myself later. And I did. Mano-e-mano.

B- was the grade for my project. I saw it with my own eyes. B-. Underservedly. First and foremost, it wasn't Mr Sam's program. Mr Sam would never give you his program in a complete algorithm. He will only give an idea of how we can design a program. Everybody knows that. And Mr Sam teaches General Insurance. My project was about Life Insurance. Can you see the difference? Sure u can. But not Hanafi. Maybe he feels he's a god. He knows it all.

It was a sad ending. I know I did well in our group project. As the MC. As the joker. As the person who thought why not give the best for the group project? Pleased the lads. The lecturers. "Let the grade in which I am giving to u reflects your attitude." Ah well, I dunno whether to thank him or to hate him. Only time will tell.

In my opinion he's being bias. He said he is not pin-pointing me. But I know from what I see he's actually discriminating. Well he said it himself. He sees me and Piah as intelligent students. So, he expected more from us. The rest he doesn't really care. Especially the females. He said females are less intelligent but hardworking. So they deserve better grades and less bombardment. Clearly this is a discrimination. And it's unfair.

At least I'm still taking positives out of the day I was humiliated, embarrased. Maybe I was bad at the presentation. Maybe my results for the project were not clearly stated. But it's nice to hear some collegues were backing me up.

Maybe lady-luck forgot to smile on that day. I was always lucky all this while, during my time in UiTM. Sometimes I dont think I deserve a good grade. But just when I thought I was gonna wham it.. this thing happened.

Hmm on the bright side, I'm done. And I am itching for a new challenge. Since Tuesday I slept all day. Yup sleep is good. It's like living in a fantasy.

I'll blog on Arsenal's Almost Champions, BBQ Party and Futsal Finale in my next entry.

Chow

First entry

Hello,

Heard about the 'goodman' causing chaos in bloggers' website. Was told about a friend's blog going top 7 nationwide. Moi? Not a new blogger. Lets just say it's a comeback..